Rebecca Weiss: 1962-2012

Rebecca Weiss of Marina del Rey was reported missing Aug. 11 after she didn't return from a diving excursion off the Palos Verdes Peninsula.

Rebecca Weiss, was found off the coast of Palos Verdes on Aug. 18, was also an avid traveler and wanted to open an orphanage in Costa Rica.

On Aug. 11, Rebecca Weiss was snorkeling alone near the located at 6610 Palos Verdes Drive South in Rancho Palos Verdes. When she did not return home, her husband drove to the site, found her dive bag and alerted police.

"She was an incredible human being, always full of life,” said sister-in-law Rina Causey. “She loved the water. No matter where she went, she needed the water.”

After a weeklong search, recreational divers found her body on Aug. 18 below the former Marineland of the Pacific site just hours after the family and volunteers began handing out flyers in the area where she was reported missing.

Although investigators do not think foul play was involved, detectives interviewed Alan Weiss on Aug. 15 as part of normal police procedure. He gave investigators the same information that he gave them when he reported his wife missing, and he has cooperated fully with the missing persons investigation, according to Lt. Holly Francisco of the Sheriff's Homicide Bureau.

“The tragedy has been compounded,” said brother Roberto Causey. “Alan (the husband) won’t allow us to attend the ceremony.”

He said that Alan Weiss told him that Rebecca wished that only her husband and two other people attend a ceremony in case she died. But Causey thinks that Weiss is denying her family out of spite as they had raised suspicion regarding her disappearance and allege that he has a mistress on the side.

Alan Weiss did not return messages seeking comment.

Rebecca Weiss moved to Marina del Rey 20 years ago when she married Alan. Before her disappearance, she was working as a bookkeeper. An investigation to determine the cause of death is still ongoing.

Weiss was born on April 4, 1962, and grew up in Palos Verdes. She graduated from Miraleste High School in 1981. She is survived by her husband Alan Weiss, brother Roberto Causey, sister-in-law Rina Causey and mother Vilma Causey.

Patch Editor Nicole Mooradian contributed to this report.

Wendei Spale August 24, 2012 at 01:59 AM
I would be happy to comment on this article because I'm disgusted at how this has all played out. Alan Weiss is my first cousin and I've known him since I'm a baby which means I've known Rebecca since they began dating. The truth is that Rebecca hadn't even spoken to her mother in more than a year so for the family to make up such lies has been disgusting and downright evil. Alan has too much class to tell this to the media which is why he's refused interviews and will not comment about her family. Her brother continues to say in interviews that Rebecca was "snorkeling" but she wasn't....she was free-diving...very different sport. Snorkelers do not hold dive while wearing a weight belt to take them down into the water further. Rebecca was an expert free-diver and went alone many times contrary to what they have said. Contrary to what her family has said, Alan was out all night and the next day searching for her along with the coast guard who was brought into this immediately upon his reporting her missing. He didn't go back to the search site once her family got involved because of all the horrific things they said about him. He knew that by dealing with them and the media, the focus would be taken away from finding his wife. Even in her death, Alan continues to protect Rebecca which is more than I can say for her family who continues to attack him in the media. He is grieving...he lost his bed friend, his wife. He is respecting Rebecca's wishes, not her family's.
Wendei Spale August 24, 2012 at 02:04 AM
Furthermore, Rebecca is survived by more than who is mentioned. She is survived by two sisters-in-law who loved her very much, aunts and uncles and many cousins who loved her and thought she was wonderful and kind and have always been grateful for making our cousin, Alan so happy. She also had many close friends who were extended family to her. My advice to anyone reading these stories is to remember that there are always two sides to every story and never believe everything you see or read in the media. I ask that you pray for my cousin as he was closer to Rebecca than anyone...he WAS her family and she was his.
Anthony Folsom Sr. August 24, 2012 at 02:44 AM
Dear Wendei; Thank you so much for filling in the blanks. My wife and I are divers too. For that reason alone Rebecca's death rocked us. I am so very sorry for your loss. I have been free diving since I've been 16 years old. I'm sure you know how much pride we take in our ability to remain under for long periods of time. Rebecca's tragic loss is even more compounded by the fact that she was an expert. It should and will serve as a reminder to all of us that anything can go wrong to anyone, and of course that no mater how expert we are, never dive alone. God bless you for sharing this information with us. Rebecca's Husband, you and all those she loved, and loved Rebecca will be in our prayers. Tony F.
Rina Causey August 25, 2012 at 02:13 AM
You should be disgusted, Wendie. However, your disgust is directed in the wrong direction. And you are correct there are always two sides to every story. Too bad Alan lied to you. You were not there! You were not present during the conversation when Alan called my husband as we were driving to Rancho Palos Verdes to meet him. I was and I am disgusted with Alan! Alan called shortly after midnight (Sunday morning). Since my husband was driving, I put Alan on the car’s speaker phone. Alan wanted to go home! And the search for Rebecca was only a few hours old. Alan felt it was a waste of time, meaning the efforts by the Sheriff’s Department, LA County Lifeguards and U.S. Coast Guard. Ask Alan about the horrible comment he made as to what he felt like because he was just standing around. My husband told him to wait. Alan then called back later and said the authorities asked him to stay. Again, my husband told him to wait. When we arrived we could not find Alan because he had already left. It appeared that Alan had given up on Rebecca very quickly! We did not realize that he had given up on Rebecca much earlier. Please view his interview by KCAL 9. Listen to Alan’s reply when he said he knew in his heart that Rebecca was already gone. Alan had given up on Rebecca early Saturday night before the search started!
Rina Causey August 25, 2012 at 02:14 AM
When Alan returned later on Sunday morning, he told me it was stupid of me to ask him if Rebecca might be with her friends in the resort. He said she was dead. He repeated this several times. He also called the cops stupid for asking him the same question. When Alan could not take Rebecca’s car, he left. He was there less than two hours, Wendie, contrary to your statement! Alan lied to you! That was the last time we saw Alan. Where was Alan from Monday through Friday?! Alan has a large cabin cruiser and he is also an accomplished diver. Why wasn’t he in the water looking for Rebecca?! And where were you, Wendie? You were not with us at the resort or in the nearby surrounding areas. None of my family and friends saw you talking to people, passing out flyers, and going to the businesses.
Rina Causey August 25, 2012 at 02:36 AM
Alan did make a statement about my family in his interviews. Wendie, what is so “distasteful” about trying to find someone who saw Rebecca that Saturday? What “horrific things” were we saying at the search site? It was my mother-in-law who told the truth about Alan having another woman. Mrs. Causey was at Santa Monica when she made that statement. By the way, Wendie, it was Alan who told my husband that Rebecca was snorkeling after Alan told him that Rebecca was missing. This was late Saturday night. We just want the truth! Again, you are correct, Wendie. There are always two sides to every story, so please ask Alan not to lie to you. You have not talked to us, Wendie. We talked to Alan. We asked Alan. Where have you been, Wendie? Please do not make incorrect statements, especially about my family. If you want to talk to me, ask Alan for my phone number. Rina Causey (sister-in-law)
Wendei Spale August 25, 2012 at 03:28 AM
Rina, I know who you are and Alan doesn't have a problem with you. It's your mother in law. She fed the media and brought suspicion against him and he loved your sister in law more than you will ever know. I am not going to use this public forum to get into a pissing match with you. All I can tell you is that Alan has been in shock...hasn't slept, looks like hell. The truth is she drowned..it's horrible, but no one caused this...it's tragic for all who loved her. But bashing her husband who she loved isn't going to help and it's not going to bring her back. This is all taking the focus off a beautiful kind woman. He did the right thing by calling you guys that night...to be honest I don't even think he remembers calling. The truth is there, you just don't want to accept it. It's awful to accept something so horrible and I get it. I'm very sorry for your loss. It's sad for everyone, can't you understand that? Being angry isn't going to bring her back. That's all I have to say. If you continue to bash him publicly for not having the "proper" reaction when he was in shock, then go ahead...it only makes that side of the family look bad. Our family is standing by Alan as we love him and love Rebecca. He is my priority right now. Again, I'm sorry for all involved.
Rina Causey August 25, 2012 at 05:07 PM
Then stop your lies! And don’t you dare insult me! I asked you to call me, but you continue to use this as your public forum. You professed “Alan has too much class.” My definition of class is a person of character. A person who on daily basis strives to be principle-centered. To me, it is not defined by wealth, social status, position, or education. So what son-in-law would deny a mother to say good bye to her only daughter?! Alan said in his interview he would allow Rebecca’s family to attend “if there is one.” Alan referred to us as “some people.” We are not some people. We are her family! Alan has now changed his mind because he wants to abide by what supposedly Rebecca wanted. It appears Alan is using this against her family. Once again, Alan has changed his mind! I know Allan is allowing others, who are not blood-related, to attend. Others who were not mentioned by Rebecca. It was Alan who said it was only him and two others. So much for honoring Rebecca’s wish! Again Wendie, you were not present in that conversation. I was. So Wendie, this is your definition of class?
Georgeanne Whitney August 25, 2012 at 08:31 PM
Dear Wendie, I decided to finally get into the fray and set the record straight as I know it. I am a cousin to Rebecca's adopted father, Alex Causey, but he was like a brother to me as we were raised together by my grandmother. I would gladly have put my hand into the fire for him and likewise he for me. Alex and Vilma lived near me and my ex-husband. They were in the import/export business. Rebecca and Robert (brother) lived with me a great deal of the time. We took her to Copenhagen, gave her tennis lessons and did all the things parents do. Rebecca lived with my mother when she attended Scottsdale Community College. Vilma and I are close in age and on our 65th birthday, Rebecca gave us a huge joint birthday party "for her 2 mothers". In all the years I have talked to Rebecca, she never mentioned you. Within the last few years, we went on vacation together to see the polar bears as well as traveling to Sedona. During the first part of June 2012, she came to Arizona to prepare meals for my two close friends as I had broken my hip as well as needed treatment for recurrent cancer. I fly for an airline when healthy and she was listed as a pass traveler of mine.
Georgeanne Whitney August 25, 2012 at 08:33 PM
All this is background for what I am about to say. Her marriage had deteriorated into one of convenience. They had many problems. It started over Alan's son by a previous marriage and progressed to his lavish support of other women. They no longer took vacations together, they lived in separate rooms and essentially lived separate lives occasionally getting together socially and for business reasons. I found her an attorney when Alan ordered her out of the condo when she returned from Costa Rica. After a mediator talked to Alan, they worked out an arrangement. I respected her decisions even though I may have disagreed with them. Everyone has the right to be the star in their own life. She was like a daughter I never had, and I was always there to help if she wanted it. She also helped me when I had my mastectomy. I stayed in Alan's bedroom while he went to a hotel for a little over a week. Because I am not going along with Alan's version of events, I am banned from attending her memorial. At my age truth is paramount. I am sorry Alan feels he must be spiteful and revengeful towards me and my family. He is spreading lies about people no longer here to defend themselves. But that is his problem and for that he will receive his own Karma. Rebecca's spirit is everywhere. It is not confined to Alan's yacht. And with this, I say God Speed and may you find peace, fulfillment and happiness. Georgeanne
Christine White August 26, 2012 at 03:13 PM
Wow. Very well said. So Alan's yet another "husband" who, like the infamous O.J., and many many many others have forgotten about "divorce." These men make me sick. O.J. got his (arrogant a&%hole that he is); this Alan creature will get his. So sorry for your family's loss; Rebecca sounded like a very bright spirit, doing positive things in the world.
Susan August 27, 2012 at 03:02 AM
You are all doing Rebecca a horrible disservice by throwing jabs back and forth. Perhaps the loss to each of you is overwhelming that you are seeking answers rather than the truth. Hopefully the law enforcement investigation will bring closure in some fashion.
Wendei Spale August 27, 2012 at 03:12 AM
Thank you, Susan. I am sorry I even posted but I am protective of my family as you can imagine. I am purposely not responding to any of the other posts because as you say, it takes away from the horrible loss of Rebecca and what I do know about her is that she didn't want conflict and would be horrified if she knew all that had gone on. I will not publicly speak about her personal life and her marriage other than I know for a fact my cousin loved her and is devastated. I apologize for starting something I didn't realize would turn ugly and would even go so far as to ask the editor of this patch to remove all comments.
Anthony Folsom Sr. August 27, 2012 at 03:33 AM
I agree with you Susan; This is a public forum, not a private location. For those of us in the diviing community; We will remember that a fellow diver that was tragically and needlessly taken from us before we we ready or able to say our goodbye's. In the world of diving, we endlessly go over the procedures for a safe trip. Preaching those same well established safety tips to all new or inexperienced divers. For all the skill and expertise any one person may possess, none are immortal. I still don't understand why, let alone where Rebbeca would go out on a dive by herself. It is THE FIRST RULE OF DIVING, whether it be a free dive, scuba dive, or any other including snorkeling assisted dives, DO NOT GO DIVING ALONE. Pick-up the telephone and call PADI (the Professional Association of Diving Instructors) in Rancho Santa Margarita and they'll tell you the same thing. It's what we're all talking about, a tragic mistake made by a very good diver in Rebecca. God Bless those suffering for her loss, she will be very missed in the diving community too. Please no more hate filled messages.
Alan September 14, 2012 at 10:24 AM
Georgeanne, YOU broke her heart. please provide the name of the mediator who you introduced "us" to. too much or an out right lie. Georgeanne, she came to help you when you needed her, what did you say to her? You want to judge me? We opened our home to you! if this makes you sleep better at night, fine. We all know Rena will lie for Bobby, which she has done here. all i did is follow her wishes, which were written out in detail. she did not want you, who had no time to share her love in life , to show your phoniness in her death. Thank you Wendei, and all of you who could see the truth.
Georgeanne Whitney September 14, 2012 at 11:29 PM
Alan. Your response in the Marina Del Rey Patch was both surprising and incredulous. I don't have any idea what you are writing about. If I broke Rebecca's heart, she never let me know it by words or actions. I have voicemails and texts from her in June that totally belie your premise. She never said anything to me while she was at my home that indicated she needed help for anything. She was upbeat and prepared meals for my friends. Rebecca let me into her home for a few days when I had a mastectomy for recurrent cancer. SO??? Isn't that what family and friends do. She had a standing invitation to stay with me for however long she wished. As for her wishes as to a funeral, how do you know what they were? And why was she even communicating them to anybody. She was a strong healthy 50-year old with only minor problems that could be healed. Why was she even thinking about dying??? She had her whole life ahead of her. I was always there for her when she wanted it. Were you there for her in Costa Rica - in Florida - in New York - in India when she almost died in the hospital??? Where were you when she was fired by the owner of West Central Produce - you know - Chet - your employer and the man who denied barely knowing her, yet she had managed his finances for years and you all owned properties together.
Georgeanne Whitney September 14, 2012 at 11:29 PM
I don't understand any of your ramblings, Alan, and I certainly don't plan on airing yours or Rebecca's dirty linen in this forum or any dirty linen of any of my deceased relatives. You have my email and my phone number. Contact me if you wish when you have a grip on reality and in full control of your faculties. Otherwise, continue in your perpetual arrogant haze. And believe anything you want. That is your prerogative.
Rina Causey September 15, 2012 at 01:51 AM
You are what you are, Alan. You are trying so hard to hide the truth, but you can not fool anyone. By your actions and words, you have clearly shown that you are a coward and a liar! If you think others do not see through you, then your arrogance continues to blind you. You did not abide by Rebecca’s wishes. You had other people there who were not blood-related during the final farewell to Rebecca. How ugly of you not to allow her mother to say goodbye to her only daughter! Also, not allowing my husband and her only aunt on her father’s side to attend! Once again, you have stooped to the lowest level. Be careful, Alan, who you are calling a liar. Remember, I was present when you talked to my husband on our way to Rancho Palos Verdes and also what you said to me Sunday morning at the resort. As for Georgeanne, you know too well she will be able to substantiate her statements, including the attorney’s name. Alan, do you honestly think I would just listen to you after you have lied repeatedly?! I have told you before that I do not care who you think you are. Not one bit! And I am certainly not afraid of your associates. You know where to find me.
kirsten panik October 05, 2012 at 05:37 AM
Is this about " Bambie" and her brother " bobby" and mother " Velma" my father was very close to this family....I grew up with Bambi and Bobby.... Velma was a wonderful woman.....please someone respond.....I just nowswa this and if its the family I knew......I am speechless......KIRSTEN Bjerring
kirsten panik October 05, 2012 at 05:40 AM
Please tell me this isn't her.....????
Rina Causey October 06, 2012 at 03:04 AM
Hello Kirsten. This is Rina, and I am Bob's wife. Please see Mrs. Causey at the Farmer's Market on Saturday. Your mother knows which market. Mrs. Causey is looking forward to see you, your mother and your brother.
saddened October 15, 2012 at 08:58 PM
Wow, unresolved business. It's very sad as an outsider to see the horrible fued going on when someone has lost thier life. It's awful.
John Waldrip December 17, 2012 at 03:47 AM
What matters the most is the truth of how Rebecca died. All this bitter back and forth about who behaved a certain way or who lied about a memorial is ridiculous as are the conspiracy theories. All of you should move on with your lives and just honor Rebecca's memory. It's sad to see people in their 50s and 60s acting like attention whoring teenagers! I don't know any of you but if someone I'm related to passes away and this happens, I'd call out everyone and spread equal blame to all of them!


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